How Do I Deal With Desire?

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How Do I Deal With Desire?

It is well known that desire is the cause of all sorrows and tension, but being a wife and a mother …

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Being a wife and a mother, I can’t get rid of these desires. I seek your valuable advice in this regard. Thank you.

Now, it’s not because you’re a wife and in turn a mother that your desires don’t count. If you are nobody’s wife, probably you were desiring. When you were nobody’s wife, you were desiring to be somebody’s wife. Now that you are somebody’s wife, you desire to have a child and become a mother. Now that you have a child, now you are saying it is these 2 entities which is making me desire. It is not true. If you are nobody’s nothing, even then, your desire would still burn within you. Is that so? Yes or no? If you are nothing to nobody in the world, still your desire will burn, isn’t it? So please don’t think your desires are because of your child or your husband or your family or whatever. Any way you will desire, because that’s your nature.

Now you made a statement in the question that desire is the source of all misery. Desire is not the source of all misery. Unfulfilled desire is the source of all misery, isn’t it? Isn’t it so? Desires fulfilled are the source of your joy. Unfulfilled desires is the source of your misery. Now, what to do with the desire? Shall we kill the desire? I know people have been teaching you such things. “You must kill all your desires. Unless you destroy your desires, your misery will not go.” These teachings have come to you, isn’t it? Now, if you want to destroy all your desires, all you will have is you will have a great desire to destroy all your desires and you will remain eternally unfulfilled. I don’t want any desires. Is this a desire? Is this a desire or no? Yes.

If you try to play tricks with this, it’s not going to work, because desire is not desiring for anything in particular. The energy which you call as desire is not different from the energy that you call as life. If you want to move from point A to point B, you need a desire, isn’t it? Now, what brought you here today? It is not your bus or car or something else, it is your desire which has brought you here today, isn’t it? What is it that will take you home? It is your desire which will take you home. What is it that will make you eat? It is your desire which will make you eat. So, what you call as desire is not any different from what you call as life. The life is desire. The very basis of your life is desire, isn’t it? So if I tell you, “Kill the desire,” the only way is to hang yourself. There is really no other way.

“Now, I want to die.” That is also a desire, isn’t it? Yes or no? So, do not deceive yourself with these things. Desire is already a sense of your life, but at the same time, you also know that desire is an unending thing. If you fulfill one, the next one will be ready. If you fulfill that, the next one will be ready. It keeps you on, all the time, and obviously some desires will be unfulfilled, and those unfulfilled desires cause much misery to you. If you look at the desire, actually when we started, this is what we were looking at. We just did not use the word “desire.” There is something within you longing to be a little more than what you are right now, isn’t it?

That is desire, so your desire’s ultimate goal is unboundedness. The infinite nature, but because you are unaware, you are giving it an unconscious expression for the longing that is wanting to become unbounded, so you don’t have to destroy your desire, because you cannot. Can anybody destroy their desire? Is it possible? There is no way, because that’s life. It is just that you have to make your desire into your conscious process. Right now it is functioning unconsciously, because right now your desires are not even about you. Please look at this. Right now you’re living in another world. Your neighbor has a big car. What is your desire? You want to have 2 cars like that. Now, you don’t know all these cars, you are living in a remote place and your neighbor has 1 big buffalo. What do you desire? You want to have 2 buffaloes like that.

Your desire is just a reaction to the social situations in which you’re living, isn’t it? This is so because this longing to expand is finding unconscious expression. If you make your process of desiring into your conscious process, then desire is no more a problem. Desire is a wonderful vehicle which will take you places. Even if you want to reach the ultimate, you need a desire, isn’t it? Yes or no? Any way, the desire in you is longing for unboundedness. It is longing for unlimitedness. It is longing for the ultimate nature. You just have to bring awareness to it. If you bring awareness, your desiring process, it is a wonderful instrument. If it is finding unconscious expression then it makes you run like mad man. All the time, it keeps you running endlessly, so being a wife, being a mother, it’s extremely important, now that you are a mother, not a small responsibility. You brought another human being into this planet.

Now what kind of human being you produce is a very huge responsibility, isn’t it? It is not just about reproduction. What kind of next generation you create is in your hands as a mother, isn’t it? Yes? What kind of people are going to live on this planet in the next generation is decided by the mothers of today, isn’t it? When such a responsibility you have, you cannot afford to live unconsciously. You must become conscious, especially the woman must become conscious. It’s very, very important.