“Do not underestimate negative relationships. You have a deep bond with those you hate, fear, or envy. Time to dissolve that.” – Sadhguru
Unhealthy relationships can be a widespread issue, affecting many individuals worldwide. Whether the trouble is with a difficult family member, friend, or romantic partner, dealing with toxic individuals can be a daunting and draining experience, leaving one feeling helpless and uncertain about how to navigate such situations. Should we try to help them get better? Does there come a clear point when we know we have to just leave? Sadhguru offers a profound perspective on this matter in this video as he answers a question about dealing with abusive people and looks at the best thing one can do for such people: transform them.
Sadhguru: “If you have a choice, don’t deal with them. But if it happens to be someone in your close family or your domestic partner, let’s see if you can transform them. Or if nothing works you insulate yourself against them”
”Don’t react to anything that they do, unless they are getting physically abusive. If they are getting physically abusive, you leave. You have trees around you, insects scream through the night. They may be cursing the hell out of you. But you do not try to decipher what they are saying. You just listen. You get used to that and you ignore that. You do the same with abusive people. They talk a lot of nonsense. Just stop understanding the language for some time”
“You did everything possible and there is nothing else you can do about this person, but for some reason you are stuck with them. If it is so, just listen to the sounds of their language. Don’t attach any meaning to the words that they are saying, because most people anyway don’t know what they are talking about. If they knew what they were talking about, they would be talking sense.”
“The best thing you can do is try to transform them. If you cannot do that, hand them over to me. If you cannot, if you do not want to be with them, try to go away. If that is not possible, just treat them like insects, compassionately, but not attaching too much importance to what they are saying.”
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