Love and Spirituality

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Love and Spirituality

You are like you are 10, 11 years of age. The world was everything fine with it. Suddenly, your intelligence got hijacked by your hormones. Suddenly the whole world looks different, all of a sudden. All that’s happened is, your intelligence got hijacked by your hormones. The chemistry has hijacked you. Very, very few individuals have the necessary awareness to look beyond that at life. Everybody else get flooded by this process. By the time they recover, usually it’s too late. Not necessarily, so is it something wrong or right? There’s nothing wrong or right, it’s just limited that’s all. Is being limited a crime? No, but the nature of the human being is such he suffers limitations. He doesn’t like it. A relationship, when you see a man and a woman, you’re talking about a relationship because there are other aspects to it. There may be a social angle to it. There may be a physical angle to it. There may be a psychological angle to it. There may be an economical angle to it. The variety of other things to fulfill in a relationship. We form relationships with a variety of people in our lives.

You have business relationships, you have personal relationships, you have professional relationships. Relationships will form basically to fulfill different types of needs or to fulfill somebody else’s needs, whichever way it is. It is a relationship. What you refer to as love is just a sweetness of your emotion. You can use another person to stimulate that within you or you can be self on self struck mechanism.

It’s possible for two people together to be together beyond the chemistry, the chemical, the hormones, to be self. It is important to be started for each other and continue that relationship? I mean, do you see value in that? Do you see value in people staying together for so long? In a marriage, beyond duty, beyond say, “Okay, we have children, we have to do it together.” Society …

It is a sudden duty for two human beings to live their lives as one. There is a sudden sense of, see if you have to really be with somebody, you have to give up a part of yourself in some way. The English expression, “falling in love” is very significant, you can only fall into it, you cannot stand in it, you cannot climb in it, you have to fall into it. Falling means some part of you has to go to accommodate another, which is a good thing for a human being to do. That he doesn’t think too much of himself. One who thinks too much of himself cannot be in love affair.

Yeah.

Somewhere, you have to surrender a part of yourself to be in a love affair. In that sense it’s a very beautiful thing.

In this weaving as you call it, is it possible for you to be with another person that becomes, I’m just guessing here, that becomes the conduit towards your own self realization? Is that a possibility? Is that, could that be a base of relationship?

It is definitely a possibility but it’s a risky possibility.

Okay, I understand that.

You may just get entangled and lost in so many complexities of a relationship rather than finding the ultimate nature. I’m not saying it’s not possible, it’s very much possible. That is why in India when we got people married, we tried what’s called… Today it’s just a thread, a ritualistic thread, but that’s not how it originally started. There’s a way of taking a strand of energy from you and your partner and tying it up in a certain way so that beyond your logic, beyond your understanding, beyond your psychological, emotional and physical needs, somewhere deep inside two beings are tied together, two lives are tied together. A lot of people cannot understand how these two people are together. Nothing seems to be in common in them but still they are like one because on another level they’re tied up.

This can happen because of the physical proximity and the intimacy of the whole relationship but even before you start it, we have a whole technology as to how to tie up two lives together. We always said that this is a lifelong thing. You cannot break it, if you break it, you have to tear two lives apart. It was not just an arrangement, it was a kind of a union. If you listen to all the mantra’s chanting in a wedding, they’re always talking about this. How these two beings are being welded together. Okay, so anyway, you come from Bollywood. There was a time, 30 years ago, 25 years ago, every song was talking to you, now they’re talking about a date. The whole context of relationships has changed which I feel is sad because the profoundness of being with another being has been lost in this. In the name of freedom, in the name of choice. Actually you’re becoming horribly compulsive. It’s all about yourself. When it’s all about yourself you will not know the beauty of life.

These marriages which were done in a certain way, was never about you, it was always about the other person. Both the people, if they think like this, it’s about the other person, it’s a beautiful place to be. If only one person thinks like that it becomes exploitation. If both the persons don’t think like that it’s just a compulsive relationship. Me trying to extract something from you, you trying to extract something from me. It’s a conflict situation all the time.